Tough Love

One author points out that Satan is the enemy, not the person you’re dealing with! The real battle is against the forces of wickedness (See Ephesians 6:12). Satan wants you to think it’s your battle alone, and act like you’re separate from God. No, ‘The battle is the Lord’s’ (1 Samuel 17:47 NKJV). He’s in it with you. So, what should you do?

1) Pray for the abuser. People who continually hurt others are in bondage to their own sin. While that in no way excuses them, it gives you insight into how to pray for them. God intended these relationships for good, but they’re undermined by alcohol, anger, and other counterfeits satan uses to destroy fellowship and family. Pray for the abuser to become the person God intended.

2) Take a firm stand. You may need group support and a mediator present for an intervention. God’s light can penetrate the deepest darkness with hope, restoration, and reconciliation, and when that happens it’s a quicker path to healing. Nevertheless you need to take a firm stand, and if need be, get others to help you.

3) Ask God, ‘Should I stay or go?’ It would be naïve to suggest that an intervention, sprinkled with prayer, will suddenly change everything. Some people respond to confrontation; some are melted by God’s love. But many remain toxic and abusive, even when confronted in love, forgiven, and drenched in grace. You may need to end the relationship, as difficult as that may be. Remember, it’s not your job to change the person, and it’s not a failure on your part if they don’t change, even when they’re confronted with God’s love and truth.

on Decluttering my email!

The good thing about computer clutter is that it doesn’t take up space in your home. The bad thing about computer clutter is that it can be just as overwhelming as
the kind of clutter you can hold in your hands!

The computer clutter that creeps up the fastest can be… EMAIL!!Business email, personal email, interesting email, email alerts, automatic weekly reports -it can add up so fast.

Over the years, email has become an enormous challenge for me in terms of sheer volume. I have no doubt that I have received well over a hundred thousand emails in the past six years. A while back, I told myself that I would delete 200 a day. That didn’t do any good. It barely made the slightest dent in my email. I had email folders upon folders like you wouldn’t believe- 37 folders!

The biggest problem was the sheer sense of OVERWHELM and dread every time I opened my email program. Yes, it was organized. I had a folder for everything.
Over time, I organized and reorganized them with numbers and letters and exclamation points in the beginning of each main category so I could have them in the order I wanted. That still didn’t stop the overwhelm. It was still too much. At the top, I put “Important” and had subcategories for family and work – but “Important” soon grew so big, it was no longer useful.

Still more BIG solutions were needed,and I have found some good ones. Here is one of the solutions I’d like to share with you.

First, I changed where much of my email goes. The first order of business was – subscriptions. I subscribe to MANY email newsletters. Those alone really piled up. I needed to save important subscriptions, but I definitely didn’t want them on my computer.

Solution: I made a special Gmail account-http://gmail.com. It takes only a minute to set up a Gmail
account.

I took each one of my subscriptions, and clicked the link at the bottom to change my “details” – and changed the email address to the new Gmail address.
Fantastic! Now all the subscriptions go to Gmail, which can store them for ages, and is free, and is out of sight until I need to read it.

That took care of half of the problem right there. On Gmail, you can create a “filter” so that each email goes into its own folder (or “label”) immediately, and doesn’t
even sit in your Inbox. That’s even better. Some of them will go to Spam, but you can mark them as “not spam” and move them to the right folder if needed.

I don’t share this email address with anyone or use it to reply to anything – that way, I’m much less likely to ever get unwanted email as in s-p-a-mmm!!

So if you have too much email coming in to your computer’s email program, try Gmail. I find it generally to work better than Hotmail or Yahoo. Put ALL of your regular, incoming email here that you really don’t need clogging up your main Inbox. It will be organized for when you need it – and you won’t run out of space.

8 medicines you shouldn’t give to your preschooler

Young children are much more likely than adults to have adverse drug reactions, so giving your preschooler prescription or over-the-counter (OTC) medication – even “herbal” medicines – is serious business. Here are some medicines you shouldn’t give your 2- to 4-year-old.

  1. Aspirin
  2. Over-the-counter cough and cold medicines
  3. Anti-nausea medications
  4. Adult medications
  5. Any medication prescribed for someone else or for another condition
  6. Anything expired
  7. Extra acetaminophen
  8. Chinese herb ma huang (ephedra or ephedrine)

Want to know the reasons behind? Read here at Baby Center.

Getting Organized this holiday!

It’s holiday time, which is a time for many of us to be taking care of last-minute plans for family events and gift-giving.

How can you get organized today? Before you rush out the door, sit down and make a list of the “musts” which must be taken care of in the next 2 weeks.

Also allow some room for the unexpected event that may change your plans! It could be a needed car repair or a sick family member.

If you don’t know where to start today, just ask yourself this: What are the Absolute Musts when it comes to your last-minute holiday preparations?

Write down the MUSTS for each day between now and New Year’s Day, and make those your top priority this week!

Get those things taken care of first, without allowing interruptions that can wait a while. Maybe there are a few things on your list that you can simply decide NOT to add to your burden this year. Give yourself permission to shorten your “to do” list! Keep it simple – don’t try to overdo it. Just stick to the most basic elements of the holiday: you may need to get a tree decorated, purchase some gifts, and plan what the family will eat.

You want to be able to enjoy the holidays yourself without making them into something that adds stress. But let’s face it – for most of us, the holidays mean extra stress in making sure that all of the above gets done as early as possible.

Thank you Mimi Tanner, Author of Declutter Fast – How to Get Your Home In Order for your decluttering tips! You know you helped me a lot and I’m so happy for that .

Don’t keep your love in a box

If you think good things about someone, tell them. Go out of your way to fill their lives with joy while there’s still time. Those expressions of appreciation, those words of forgiveness, that special gift you’ve had in mind, give it while you can. Don’t keep your love in a box!