If you’re pointing your fingers to the Filipino women who are living in slum areas to be responsible of the population increase in the Philippines, think twice! They’re not only the ones who are carelessly procreating children in the whole wide world. US alone produces 1 baby every 7.4 seconds! About 468,988 babies are born from teenage mothers. This scenario is the same in Philippines. I’m sure our teenagers don’t plan to get pregnant, but unfortunately, many do. Take a look at the following graph, Philippines isn’t alone in baby business after all.
As Christian parents, we can do something about this crisis. We already understand that training our child to have a healthy respect for the marriage relationship is our job, and, of course, we are well aware that teaching our child to run from sexual immorality must come from us as well. WE know we cannot rely on the media, the school, the church, or our child’s friends to help her/him gain conviction in this area. As a matter of fact, a study found that “Permissive parental values regarding adolescent sexual behavior emerged as a strong risk factor for both males and females. Not surprisingly, adolescents who perceived their parents as accepting of premarital adolescent sexual activity were more likely to be sexually experienced.” (1)
So how do we prepare our child(ren) to weather the barrage of sexual innuendo and temptation that hail from everywhere? While we can preach and teach in the home, they are on their own in the classroom, with their friends, etc. We cannot hold their hands 24-7, yet we must instill values that help them build convictions that will hold their hands and spirits, and encourage their souls even while we are physically absent. If your child understands that sex is not an ugly, dirty activity that is best not talked about or a seemingly disgusting duty forced upon us by our Creator, then s/he will be able to accept it as the gift that God has truly intended it to be to His creation; a gift that will bring fulfillment if used properly, but pain, heartache, and perhaps even destruction if used outside of the relationship that God intended it to enhance. If this works for me personally, I’m confident and by God’s grace, this will work too for our children. In doing so, unplanned pregnancies will decrease.