This is my knight in a shining armor

My home won’t be complete without this gallant man by my side:

I felt so blessed to have a special man. This man is the first and the last that captured my heart . He’s the one that let me feel the joy of what it is to love and beloved. He didn’t just give me roses. Instead he planted them for me. He didn’t indulge me with chocolates. Chocolates are not good for women who’s desperate to lose weight. He knew I’m one of those struggling women. He never complains on how I keep the house nor how I cook our meals-some were burnt, some tasted plainly bland. He’s forever faithful. I never have to worry about where he is or what he’s doing. He’s my best friend, always willing to listen when I have a need. His gentleness and kindness never fail. He fulfilled my dreams of becoming a wife and a working mom. He’s my hubby-my only dear Joseph.

My hubby with his female colleagues. You should have seen him how he rocks with those cowboy boots during their New Year’s Costume Party:) Am I not a stage wife? LOL!!!!

That’s my dear- friendly, charming, and warm. He gets along with almost everyone. He works hard not to rock the boat. His easy-going attitude brings people together.

Hyzyd and I are so blessed to have you in our lives. You’ll always be my sweetie pie and our son’s NO.1 dad! We love you so much. You have shown us what it means to love unconditionally and what it is to be responsible for our love ones.. Through my ups and downs, you’re always there and so patient in dealing with my tantrums…he..he…As always, you remain my best friend….You have that charisma and charm that makes me grow in love with you over and over again. Our love grows sweeter and sweeter as the years go by…Oh, what a love we have shared. It’s because we let God be the only third party in this relationship. Without HIM we’re really nothing. I love you. I truly love you. You have touched my life and made my dreams come true. You have taught my heart to sing songs just for you. Always remember that we’re each for the other and both for the Lord. Together we will live a happy life.WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH….I love you so much, mahal.

Happy Valentine’s , Dad! Ain’t Valentine’s our everyday occasion?

4 things that help tuning-up MARRIAGE

I shared a post in my FB wall about the closeness of marriage and other 16 friends liked it. I believe they could relate with me on this:

The secret to closeness in marriage is not sparkling conversation or shared interests or incredible sex. As good as those are, the secret is practising plain, old-fashioned thoughtfulness and kindness. It’s the stuff we learn when we’re young and forget when we’re too busy: things like respect, sensitivity, attentiveness and caring.

If your marriage needs a tune-up, start doing these four things.

1. Practise ‘hug therapy‘. When you’re at odds with each other, remember this: ‘Hearts may agree though heads differ.’ A hug works wonders. When we touch one another in caring ways our bodies actually produce chemicals that calm us emotionally and help us to bond physically. God designed us that way.

2. Don’t forget the small stuff. When you routinely build little kindnesses into your marriage they become a source of strength later; it’s like money in the bank you can draw on. So think ‘personal’ and ‘sweet’, like helping to clean up after dinner, making the bed, putting out the bins.

3. Mind your manners. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean common courtesy should go by the wayside. The Bible says, ‘Be kind to one another, tender hearted.’ That means listening without interrupting, and practising the basics like saying ‘Please’, ‘Thank you’ and ‘I’m sorry’. This stuff’s not rocket science, but it works!

4. Compliment each other. Your marriage partner is not a mind reader. Whenever you think something nice about them, tell them! We live in a cold, competitive world; hearing that we’re loved, smart, attractive and fun from someone whose opinion we really value means everything.

Love Opens Doors

(Photo Credit: A photograph of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert taken in May 1854

According to an article in Today in the Word, soon after Queen Victoria’s marriage to Prince Albert, the couple had a quarrel, whereupon Prince Albert locked himself in his private apartment. Queen Victoria knocked furiously on his door.

“Who’s there?” asked Albert.

“The Queen of England, and she demands to be admitted.”

There was no response and the door remained locked. The queen knocked furiously again.

“Who’s there?” asked Albert again. The queen’s response was the same … as was Albert’s.

After more furious knocking and no response came a quiet pause—and then a gentle tap.

“Who’s there?” asked Albert once more.

“Your wife, Albert,” the queen replied. Immediately the door was opened.

As the writer of this article pointed out, “Love opens doors.”

Need I say more?

How’s your marriage?

Here are two stories of marriage I love to share to you (excerpt from Bob and Debbie Gass article):

Story one: Debra K. Johnson writes: ‘My seven-year-old daughter wanted to take violin lessons, so I took her to a music store to rent an instrument. Hoping she would understand the importance of making a commitment to practice, I explained that lessons were expensive. I was willing to make the financial sacrifice if she promised to work hard. “There may be times you’ll feel like giving up,” I said, “but I want you to hang in there!” She nodded, understanding, then in her most serious voice she said, “It will be just like marriage, right, Mum?

Story two: A husband asked his wife, ‘Tell me, dear, have you ever been in love before?’ She thought for a moment and replied, ‘No, darling. I once respected a man for his great intelligence. I admired another one for his remarkable courage. And I was captivated by yet another for his good looks and charm. But with you, well, how else could I explain it, except love?

Have you been finding fault with your mate instead of remembering the qualities that attracted you to them? I used to but this year I resort to remember his lots of good qualities than dwelling on the few bads . Attitudes are like weeds, they spring up overnight and if you don’t deal with them they take over the whole garden. I won’t let let that happen! On times that I’m too busy to show love, or I react in anger, I remember these words: ‘Love is patient and kind. Love…does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged…Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance’ ( as found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7).

Wishing you a happy new year and a happy marriage!

Happy New Year!!!

My hands are unbelievably full that it took me more than a month to visit this blog of mine. By the way, I’m always in my other blogs- Her and History, Adventures with Hyzyd and Beyond and Fashion Explorer. You could drop me a line in there if ever you need me or you want some clarifications and verification regarding the topics I’ve discussed in here.

How’s your new year? Mine was very challenging. I couldn’t believe that I met year 2011 with tears and heartaches. I won’t go into details but this is what I learned after that misunderstanding with hubby:

1. Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting.
2. Be a good listener. Sometimes the most important thing in communicating with your mate is to hear what is not being said, to learn to read between the lines. Just ‘being there’ isn’t enough; your mate needs to feel heard – and validated. When they are, they’ll open up and accept what you have to say.
3. Speak the truth in love. Nobody likes to be corrected, but when someone is heading down the wrong road, love will ‘get in your face’. Our marriages break down when truth is violated, integrity is forsaken, trust is broken, manipulation is allowed, self-interest is the rule, control is the goal, and time isn’t invested.
4. Always believe the best. Love sees you at your worst but never forgets your best; thinks you’re a little bit more wonderful than you really are; will talk with you endlessly or just sit with you in silence; is happier about your success than you are; doesn’t try to know more, act smarter or be your constant teacher; it listens even when what you have to say is not particularly interesting. That’s because love believes you’re important!

Looking forward to a more strengthened marriage this 2011 and so are you. Cheers to that!