This is my knight in a shining armor

My home won’t be complete without this gallant man by my side:

I felt so blessed to have a special man. This man is the first and the last that captured my heart . He’s the one that let me feel the joy of what it is to love and beloved. He didn’t just give me roses. Instead he planted them for me. He didn’t indulge me with chocolates. Chocolates are not good for women who’s desperate to lose weight. He knew I’m one of those struggling women. He never complains on how I keep the house nor how I cook our meals-some were burnt, some tasted plainly bland. He’s forever faithful. I never have to worry about where he is or what he’s doing. He’s my best friend, always willing to listen when I have a need. His gentleness and kindness never fail. He fulfilled my dreams of becoming a wife and a working mom. He’s my hubby-my only dear Joseph.

My hubby with his female colleagues. You should have seen him how he rocks with those cowboy boots during their New Year’s Costume Party:) Am I not a stage wife? LOL!!!!

That’s my dear- friendly, charming, and warm. He gets along with almost everyone. He works hard not to rock the boat. His easy-going attitude brings people together.

Hyzyd and I are so blessed to have you in our lives. You’ll always be my sweetie pie and our son’s NO.1 dad! We love you so much. You have shown us what it means to love unconditionally and what it is to be responsible for our love ones.. Through my ups and downs, you’re always there and so patient in dealing with my tantrums…he..he…As always, you remain my best friend….You have that charisma and charm that makes me grow in love with you over and over again. Our love grows sweeter and sweeter as the years go by…Oh, what a love we have shared. It’s because we let God be the only third party in this relationship. Without HIM we’re really nothing. I love you. I truly love you. You have touched my life and made my dreams come true. You have taught my heart to sing songs just for you. Always remember that we’re each for the other and both for the Lord. Together we will live a happy life.WE LOVE YOU SO MUCH….I love you so much, mahal.

Happy Valentine’s , Dad! Ain’t Valentine’s our everyday occasion?

Let your spouse know how much you appreciate them

Walter Lippmann said, ‘The concept of two people living together for 25 years or more without a serious dispute suggests a lack of spirit only to be admired in sheep.’

Marriage is God’s idea, and it’s a good one. But if you’re looking for someone who can be everything, you’ll be disappointed! When you marry someone you take on their weaknesses as well as their strengths. It’s a package deal. By expecting perfection, you’re asking for more than either of you are capable of giving. However, when you get into trouble you can count on your partner. Marriage is having someone to curl up with when the world seems cold, who’s as concerned as you are when the children are ill. It’s having a hand that keeps checking your brow when you aren’t well, and a shoulder to cry on when they lower a loved one into the ground.

To the one you marry you’re saying, ‘When my time comes to leave this world, it’s your face I want to kiss goodbye. It’s your hand I want to hold as I slip into eternity. I want to look into your eyes and see that I mattered. Not what I looked like, or how much money I made, or even how talented I was. No, I want to look into the eyes of someone who loved me and see that I mattered!’ If you’ve been too busy lately, or just forgetful, take a moment and let your spouse know how much you appreciate them.

4 things that help tuning-up MARRIAGE

I shared a post in my FB wall about the closeness of marriage and other 16 friends liked it. I believe they could relate with me on this:

The secret to closeness in marriage is not sparkling conversation or shared interests or incredible sex. As good as those are, the secret is practising plain, old-fashioned thoughtfulness and kindness. It’s the stuff we learn when we’re young and forget when we’re too busy: things like respect, sensitivity, attentiveness and caring.

If your marriage needs a tune-up, start doing these four things.

1. Practise ‘hug therapy‘. When you’re at odds with each other, remember this: ‘Hearts may agree though heads differ.’ A hug works wonders. When we touch one another in caring ways our bodies actually produce chemicals that calm us emotionally and help us to bond physically. God designed us that way.

2. Don’t forget the small stuff. When you routinely build little kindnesses into your marriage they become a source of strength later; it’s like money in the bank you can draw on. So think ‘personal’ and ‘sweet’, like helping to clean up after dinner, making the bed, putting out the bins.

3. Mind your manners. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean common courtesy should go by the wayside. The Bible says, ‘Be kind to one another, tender hearted.’ That means listening without interrupting, and practising the basics like saying ‘Please’, ‘Thank you’ and ‘I’m sorry’. This stuff’s not rocket science, but it works!

4. Compliment each other. Your marriage partner is not a mind reader. Whenever you think something nice about them, tell them! We live in a cold, competitive world; hearing that we’re loved, smart, attractive and fun from someone whose opinion we really value means everything.

Love Opens Doors

(Photo Credit: http://www.dailymail.co.uk) A photograph of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert taken in May 1854

According to an article in Today in the Word, soon after Queen Victoria’s marriage to Prince Albert, the couple had a quarrel, whereupon Prince Albert locked himself in his private apartment. Queen Victoria knocked furiously on his door.

“Who’s there?” asked Albert.

“The Queen of England, and she demands to be admitted.”

There was no response and the door remained locked. The queen knocked furiously again.

“Who’s there?” asked Albert again. The queen’s response was the same … as was Albert’s.

After more furious knocking and no response came a quiet pause—and then a gentle tap.

“Who’s there?” asked Albert once more.

“Your wife, Albert,” the queen replied. Immediately the door was opened.

As the writer of this article pointed out, “Love opens doors.”

Need I say more?

Being Married and Happy

I’ve been away for a month because we visit our family in Philippines. I’m sharing some of our experiences in my personal blog, Her and History and travel blog, Away from Home. I missed coming and updating this blog. I have so much in mind to share to you but let’s discuss them one by one, shall we?

Where should I start? How about a bible verse I read that still keeps ringing in my ear ‘Enjoy life with the woman whom you love all the days of your…life…’ (Ecclesiastes 9:9 NAS)

This reminds me of my father used to say “to be married and happy you must understand that love is a choice, not a sensation. The old Righteous Brothers’ song You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling may make your toes tap but it won’t make your marriage work. ‘Feeling’ is the fruit, ‘doing’ is the root.”

Our will is where the solution begins. God wouldn’t have commanded, ‘Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church… or ‘…teach the young women to love their husbands…’ if love was a feeling and not an act of our will. When the will leads, the feelings follow.

So let’s correct four misconceptions about love. First, its foundation is not emotion, personality, beauty or sex-in other words, sources of pleasure. These things don’t bring lasting happiness. What’s needed is commitment, character and a Christ-like disposition. Secondly, think we can’t love our partner? Check with God. ‘We love because He first loved us’. If we’re loved by God, we’ve got love to give, because ‘…love comes from God…’ . We don’t have to initiate it; just give what has been given to us! Thirdly, think we’ ve ‘run out’ of love? No, we’ve just abandoned the source. Let’s tank up on the Spirit’s supply and we’ll have lots of love to give! Finally, investing ourselves in our partner causes even a dead love to live again. Agree?