The Music of Teenagers

Decades ago, no mom ever wanted to have her teen join a rock band. Rock bands used to be associated with drugs, alcohol, and sex. Well, the stereo-type rockstar addict has long been gone. However, many moms still have qualms allowing their teens to be in a rock band. Understand though that teens are undergoing so many changes, including physical and emotional, and music may actually help them express themselves more. Music may even help them have a better understanding of themselves. So, don’t hesitate getting your teen that cool korg ms-20 mini at musicians friend he’s been eyeing for months. When he knows that you’re on the same beat with him, he’ll be more appreciative of the support and would be less likely to rebel.


I wanna share to you something that is shared on my Facebook news feed. It talks about things we parents should teach our child or children. As I read on, I felt blessed because these things had been taught by our parents to us. In return, I’m also teaching these things to my son:

1. Play a sport.
It will teach you how to win honorably, lose gracefully, respect authority, work with others, manage your time and stay out of trouble. And maybe even throw or catch.

2. It is better to be kind than to be right.

3. Save money when you’re young because you’re going to need it someday.

4. Allow me to introduce you to the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom. Now please go use them.

5. Pray and be a spiritual leader.

6. Don’t ever be a bully and don’t ever start a fight, but if some idiot clocks you, please defend yourself.

7. Use careful aim when you pee. Somebody’s got to clean that up, you know.

8. Your knowledge and education is something that nobody can take away from you.

9. Treat your partner kindly. Forever is a long time to live alone and it’s even longer to live with somebody who hates your guts.

10. Take pride in your appearance.

11. Be strong and tender at the same time.

12. A woman can do everything that you can do. This includes her having a successful career and you changing diapers at 3 A.M. Mutual respect is the key to a good relationship.

13. “Yes ma’am” and “yes sir” still go a long way.

14. The reason that they’re called “private parts” is because they’re “private”. Please do not scratch them in public.

15. Peer pressure is a scary thing. Be a good leader and others will follow.

16. Bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea.

17. You will set the tone for the sexual relationship, so don’t take something away from her that you can’t give back.

18. A sense of humor goes a long way in the healing process.

19. Please choose your spouse wisely. My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.

20. Remember to call your mother and father because I might be missing you.

How to tame your kid’s tantrums? Ignore him!

My 3-year-old already knew how to assert his wants and desires by throwing a fit! It usually happens after school when we pass by a toy store . He wanted to get a toy car or a motorbike. When we won’t comply- tantrum city appears!

Both hubby and I are so tired after school and to entertain Hyzyd’s tantrum is such a burden so what we did is just ignore him. Little did I know that this tactic is effective and supported by experts!

The reason that ignoring your kid while he throws a fit works is fascinating: “During a tantrum, your child is literally out of his mind. His emotions take over — overriding the frontal cortex of the brain, the area that makes decisions and judgments,” says Jay Hoecker, MD, a Rochester, Minnesota, pediatrician. “That’s why reasoning doesn’t help — the reasoning part of his brain isn’t working.” Says Alan Kazdin, PhD, author of The Kazdin Method for Parenting the Defiant Child, “Once you’re in a situation where someone’s drowning, you can’t teach them to swim — and it’s the same with tantrums. There’s nothing to do in the moment that will make things better. In fact, almost anything you try will make it worse. Once he chills out, then you can talk.”

This is the reason why I need God!

The most dangerous time in your life is when you think you don’t need God! Complacency will set in. Smugness will grow. You’ll say, ‘I need you, Lord,’ then act like it all depends on you. As a result your faith will be unused, and when you’re not using your faith you can’t please God . If your vision doesn’t require God, it’s not of God! When He gets involved in your vision, He becomes the only means of achieving it. Without His help, what can any of us say or do that truly makes a difference? We can’t even begin to make progress until we humbly acknowledge that we are powerless over most things in life. We are, but God’s not! Whatever you’re facing today, read these words and rest in them: ‘He will never let me stumble, slip or fall. For He is always watching, never sleeping. Jehovah Himself is caring for you! He is your defender. He protects you day and night. He keeps you from all evil, and preserves your life. He keeps His eye upon you as you come and go, and always guards you’ (Psalm 121:3-8 TLB).

How to Have an Earth-Friendly Family?

To help save the Earth, it must start within our family. It doesn’t cost us so much time, effort and money to help the earth. A simple act of hanging clothes on a clothesline instead of throwing them in the dryer could help save mother earth. Instead of using motorbike or car, why not take a walk with your family and enjoy the nature along the way?

We may be too busy to do these simple things and we have no time (or patience) but I’m sure the following simple solutions could help you make your family green without overtaking your to-do list:

1. Repurpose water bottles. Make other things out of empty water bottles for fun.
2. Light your Home wisely. Turn-off lights that are not in use. Use energy-saving light bulbs.
3. Plan your Drive. Combine errands into the most efficient route to save gas.
4. Cut Out Chemicals. Make your own household cleaners using vinegar and baking soda and shampoo using baking soda and apple cider vinegar.
5. Wise use of Paper. Use both sides of paper before recycling them.
6. Save water. Don’t let the faucet keep on running while washing dishes.
7. Read Used Books. Purchase books from a used book store or check them out from the library. Give away your used books so others don’t have to buy them new.

Little changes in your gang’s routine can make a big difference on the earth. Turn your brood into a green family with the tips mentioned above. I gleaned them from busy, eco-friendly moms.